What am I doing wrong?
I get asked this question a great deal. This week I had this questions posed to me by a few people.
This is when I wish I was able to be right there in the room with you. I would want you to see the look in my eye when I am talking to you.
What would I say..
Well here is what I would say…”You are not doing anything wrong!”.
You may see a little tear in my eye or it may roll right on down my face.
Here is the thing..
Parenting is not easy! When you see another person that appears to have their “sh!t together” and they are rocking this parenting thing..I will guarantee you that they have had many days where they doubted themselves and they may be doubting themselves right now but their strength is with putting on a brave face and acting like the world is fine.
So let’s stop comparing ourselves to others and let’s get to why is your child not doing what you would like. (this can be sleeping well, toilet training, sharing..)
The number one reason I see children testing limits or doing things differently with their parents…(Any Guesses????)…
Well here is the answer… Your child feels safe with you..or your child wants to be with you that extra few minutes..or your child is not quite confident and needs the confidence from you…or…(you get the point).
There are so many factors in play that will influence how your child responds to a situation. Parenting is a game of trial and error!
Things will get better and when it feels like you are doing something wrong..remember someone else feels that as well and that trying different things will result in a solution for your family.