Best gift

Best gift

I realize that this sounds cheesy but it is a reality. The best gift you can give your child is your presence.

We can get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. Making sure our children and other family members are taken care of purchasing the perfect gift. When you get to the center of what they really want, it is you.

It can be really hard to actually be present in mind and body. I have caught myself several times thinking about everything I need to do instead of being in the moment.

So to make the best of this holiday season, try your best to be physically and mentally present when your child is there.

Now, let’s be real. You are not going to damage your child if you are not 100% present all the time. Remember it takes 10 to 15 minutes of child-led (directed play) for a child to feel connected through the day. If you are having an off day you can reset by spending a few minutes playing with your child.

Not sure about you but I find that it is really hard to be present when I overloaded. So when you are taking a break or do something for yourself, remember you are recharging so you can be present in a truly authentic manner.

I hope you have a wonderful Holiday Season

Brenda

Why? What I am doing wrong?

Why? What I am doing wrong?

What am I doing wrong?

 

I get asked this question a great deal. This week I had this questions posed to me by a few people.

This is when I wish I was able to be right there in the room with you.  I would want you to see the look in my eye when I am talking to you.

 

What would I say..

Well here is what I would say…”You are not doing anything wrong!”.

You may see a little tear in my eye or it may roll right on down my face.

 

Here is the thing..

Parenting is not easy! When you see another person that appears to have their “sh!t together” and they are rocking this parenting thing..I will guarantee you that they have had many days where they doubted themselves and they may be doubting themselves right now but their strength is with putting on a brave face and acting like the world is fine.

So let’s stop comparing ourselves to others and let’s get to why is your child not doing what you would like. (this can be sleeping well, toilet training, sharing..)

The number one reason I see children testing limits or doing things differently with their parents…(Any Guesses????)…

Well here is the answer… Your child feels safe with you..or your child wants to be with you that extra few minutes..or your child is not quite confident and needs the confidence from you…or…(you get the point).

 

There are so many factors in play that will influence how your child responds to a situation. Parenting is a game of trial and error!

Things will get better and when it feels like you are doing something wrong..remember someone else feels that as well and that trying different things will result in a solution for your family. 

 

 

A Perfect Time to be Thankful

A Perfect Time to be Thankful

As we enter into the Thanksgiving weekend here is Canada, i want to take the opportunity to express some things that I am very Thankful for.

I have a long list of things that I am extremely Thankful for. The following is just the tip of the iceberg.

 

I am Thankful that..

1. I cook supper. That means I have food to cook supper with!

2. I have a messy house. It means I have a house!

3. I hear “Mom” “Mom” “Mom” on repeat. I am a Mom!! I did not think I was going to be blessed with this opportunity less then 10 years ago.

4. I get frustrated with my Mom telling me what to do. It means that my Mom is still here and I am blessed to have her.

5. We laid my Dad and Father n Law to rest. They are at peace and not suffering.

6. I miss my friends and family. It means I have friends and family!!

7. It takes 10 minutes to get out the door. I am usually going out the door with my amazing family!

 

So now you get my point!

There are so many thingns that we do that we can be thankful for if we just look at the reason the situation happened.

As parents (Really as a human) there are going to be many times that you are disappointed, upset or frustrated. When you look back on those things with a different perspective it will bring out the things that you can be Thankful for.

I hope you have a Wonderful and Thankful Weekend filled with turning what feels like a chore into a great memory.

Feel free to comment below with your reasons for being Thankful.

As Always, Be The Parent You Want to Be!!

Reactive Approaches: Take 3

Reactive Approaches: Take 3

There are many ways you can help your little one learn what is expected of them. Take 3 is a way to give your child a chance to make a different choice.

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